Couples therapy

Every time you win an argument you loose the relationship.

Most likely you have tried to win an argument with your partner by saying hurtful things. You know that it hurts your partner but in that moment you could not help it. You just had to do it. Sometimes you win and sometimes your partner wins. Imagine your relationship is a porcelain plate. Every time you hurt your partner the porcelain gets a little damaged. After a while you can no longer serve a meal on this plate.

Forgiveness is not the same as stopping being angry. Neither is it the same as forgetting.

It is a misconception to believe that forgiveness removes guilt. It doesn't. Times does not go backwards and the done can not be undone. In a relationship the infidelity can not be undone, the harsh things said during an argument cannot be unsaid.

When you forgive it is okay to still be angry about what has happened. It is okay to say that you can feel that you are still too angry about what the other person did and at the same time you will make an effort to ensure that the corporation between you is good and aiming towards a healthy growth of your relationship.

This way you can admit that you are still upset and at the same time you show that you believe in the future of your relationship. Being angry does not have to be a threat towards the relationship 

Taking the next step

Whether you are in a relationship where you're arguing a lot or you are struggling to talk to your partner, deciding to invest in couples therapy is the first step towards finding a solution that works for both of you. 

I offer a safe space where both parties are listened to, respected, and met with empathy.

For inspiration you can read the blog post: How deep is your love?

Couples therapy is for everyone** no matter race, ethnicity, gender, sexual orientation, age or religious beliefs. 

**Why I do not offer couples therapy to people in an abusive relationship

If you are with a partner that abuses you emotional or physical then couples therapy will make the abuse even worse. The sessions are based on two people each taking responsibility for their own behaviour and talking openly about the problems.  The abusive partner will learn from the sessions and use what you say against you on a later occasion. You partner will make an effort to understand the psychological mechanisms that I will talk about during the sessions. Your partner will adjust the behaviour to make sure that the attacks on you will create an even worse impact.

If you are in an abusive relationship, then I can help you with individual therapy. I can help you to regain your strength. If you have children, I can help you to be the strong parent that your child needs when living in a family with an abuser.

Couples therapy session:

1 x 70 minutes 100 euro

Call to hear more at +39 328 163 9003

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